Connecting Matters. Where do you draw the line?

Don’t feel like drinking tonight, or ever? You’re in good company at Princeton! Many people choose not to drink for a variety of reasons.


Tips for socializing

Especially this year, alcohol isn’t necessary for being social even though some people may feel more comfortable with it if they are drinking. You can increase your confidence in social settings by trying the following:

  1. Practice social skills. Like all skills, socializing gets easier the more you do it. Remember that people are trying to get to know each other, and they’ll probably be glad to have someone else break the ice. Start with a simple hello.
  2. Don’t assume others are judging you. Most people are happy to talk with you and don’t mind if the introductions are a little awkward. If you can let go of what you’re imagining other people think and enjoy yourself, you'll inspire others to do the same.
  3. Join the non-drinking activities. You don't have to be the best at something to join in.  Giving something new a try and making mistakes with others as you learn is a great way to bond. 
  4. Join as a group. If socializing makes you nervous, see if some of your friends want to join the activity without drinking. If you’re with a group, you’ll have other sober people you can talk to and connect with all night.

"Why aren't you drinking?": How to Respond

In American culture, drinking in college (and in general) is portrayed as a norm. Sometimes it’s hard for people to understand why someone wouldn’t want to drink, even though many people choose to abstain or limit their drinking. While it’s not polite to ask about someone’s choice to not drink, it happens.

Here are some ways to respond if someone does ask you:

  • Feel free to be honest with them and let them know your motivation for not drinking.
  • You don't have to give a reason. You can just change the topic.  Ask if they like the song that's playing. 
  • Hold a non-alcoholic drink in your hand. If you’re using a colored cup, people can’t tell what’s inside. Even just having a cup in your hand might stop people from asking.
  • It can sometimes feel uncomfortable or rude to refuse a drink when someone offers one.  Here are some ways to say no.

Things to do with other students

There are lots of fun things to do with other Princeton students. Here are just a few ideas:

Feel like hanging out with friends? 

  • Consider hosting a virtual watch party of your favorite movie or show. Invite your friends, make some popcorn, and start streaming!
  • If you can invite your friends to be in-person, be sure to follow all the pandemic guidelines of your location and from the University.
  • Movies and TV aren't your style? You can host a virtual game night or play an online game with your friends.

Looking to join in on a Princeton activity?

  • Tons of virtual activities are listed here.
  • Your residential college (or Grad Life if you are a graduate student) will have lots of activities, too.

Need a break from Princeton?

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