You have consent when you and your partner:
- Have each given an informed, uncoerced, verbal “yes.”
- Are both of sound mind and legal age
- Aren’t at all incapacitated
Remember check in regularly! Consent is ongoing. Ask them how they’re doing, ask if they like what you’re doing, ask for feedback! And listen for the answer.
Body language: let’s talk about body language and consent.
- A lot of communication in intimate situations is nonverbal
- Nonverbal cues includes nodding, touching, smiling and more.
- Body language includes totally legit ways of communicating and does help convey our thoughts and feelings.
When we’re talking about consent, though, body language often isn’t enough. Relying only on nonverbal cues during sexual activity is pretty sketchy, and the stakes are too high to be wrong. Rely on explicit verbal communication to make sure you have consent. Complement the verbal with all the nonverbal communication and body language you want!